“With our tongues we praise our Lord and Father. Yet, with the same tongues we curse people, who were created in God’s likeness. Praise and curses come from the same mouth. My brothers and sisters, this should not happen!” -James 3:9-10 (GWT)
These verses are loaded! For me (and hopefully for you) it provokes both thought and change. We dishonor each other with our words so often that it has become second nature to speak first and think about what we say after. When confronted with the pain and questions of why we said those things there are so many excuses:
“I was angry”
“I didn’t mean it…it just happened”
“It was an accident”
“You just make me go there”
“You bring out the worst in me”
“See what you made me do?”
Then we wonder why our spouses question our love and our feelings for them when we use our words to send mixed messages:
In one breath we say I love you and in another I hate you
In one moment we declare “I will never leave you!” and in another we threaten divorce
Sweetly we speak cherished words of affection then we bitterly curse one another stripping each other of the honor and respect we promised.
Husbands and wives, mom’s and dad’s, my brothers and sisters, this ought not to be.
Let’s be on guard and let our words be pleasing to God and our spouse!
Pray this for help today! “O Lord, set a guard at my mouth. Keep watch over the door of my lips.”
Enjoy Your Marriage,
David & Lorrie McIntyre