In fact we make so many choices each day that I think we would be amazed by the number of conscious and unconscious decisions we make daily.
I woke up one morning and was met by wife’s voice talking to someone on the phone as she said “that’s personal responsibility”! As you may know Lorrie and I are marriage and relationship coaches and personal responsibility, the power of one, is a session we teach from Gary Smalley’s book The DNA of Relationships. We had recently shared this session with a group and I personally have been meditating on the subject for a few days. When I heard Lorrie say this it immediately triggered a series of thoughts in me that went like this:
“I am responsible for my actions today. I am personally responsible for my happiness. I am responsible for spending time in God’s word and prayer. If it happens it’s because I did it. If it does not it’s because I didn’t. No one makes me happy or sad today. I won’t give that power away…to anyone. I am personally responsible for whether I exercise today or not , whether I spend quality time with my kids and whether I talk to my wife. I am responsible for motivating myself today, for creating the personal drive to do what needs to be done and go forward…”
The thoughts went on and on and I began to see all of the areas that I am personally responsible for – that I have control over. Things that I once waited for others to provide are no longer in their hands. I am the one I’ve been waiting for. I am the one who determines how I react in every situation and circumstance, I am the one who chooses the words that come out of my mouth, the actions that I take and the thoughts that I think…I am the ONE. Therefore, I and no one else have to take hold of the reigns of my life and start steering this wagon.
Now, please don’t misinterpret this as putting yourself in the place of God or some type of self worship. To do so is to miss the point entirely. We will each stand before the Lord one day to give account for how we lived our lives, what we did for Him. At that point there will be no one (you know all of those people who “made” you unhappy and “hindered” your progress like your wife and children or that mean boss, your parents, your pastor or a co-worker) to stand by your side and explain why you didn’t do it God’s way. You see you are personally responsible for your walk with the Lord. No one can make you love Him and when you are His, no one can separate you from Him. Either way the central figure in the conversation is you – what will you choose? What have you done with the time you’ve been given? What will you do going forward. When will you stop blaming everyone else and point the finger squarely where it belongs…at you. We get angry, emotional and reactionary because we constantly give our power away to other people and say things like:
“look what you made me do!”
“If the kids would just (fill in the blank) then I would/could (fill in the blank)” or
“If only you would (fill in the blank) then I would be happy”.
How long will you allow yourself to be held hostage to emotions, actions, thoughts and reactions that are like a runaway train with no brake? You are the brake. You are the one you’ve been waiting for.
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