One of the biggest traps that I have fallen into in marriage is the comparison trap. I’m guilty of comparing my wife and our marriage to others.
I didn’t know that, in a sense, what I was communicating to Lorrie was, “You’re not good enough; you don’t measure up.” So as long as I was trying to make her over in my mom, grandma’s or anyone else’s image, things weren’t going to go well for us.
When I gave Lorrie comparison-free room to be who she is, our relationship got better and better. She didn’t feel like I was trying to change her and I learned I really enjoy her cooking and began to accept her for who she is.
“Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else.”
Galatians 6:4 (NLT)
David & Lorrie